I've written too much about this married guy I know who is pushing 50 but still fancies himself a player with 30 year old women. I think he behaves well - technically, officially - but he's out there walking on thin ice, I say as a married guy who knows my wife wouldn't appreciate me hanging out with or sniffing around much younger women, much younger single women. Today a group of people went out to coffee after the meeting and one of my A.A. daughters invited me to tag along, mostly because there's a brand new man that I've been talking to and who was also going to be coffee drinking. I deferred, as I had previously made plans to take a walk with The Player Guy who - I need to stress - is a nice man who works hard at recovery and spends a lot of time sponsoring new guys. In my much beloved smart ass way I said something along the lines of "I get to listen to him drone on and on and on about problems of prosperity" with a huge smirk on my face and a well-known propensity for dishing out good humored shit to my friends. (Ed. Note: while I was joking he really does this when we take a post-meeting walk on the beach. I'm fine with it. I think he appreciates the ear of someone who is interested in his comings and goings and is willing to call him on any bad behavior. His real sponsor is a sweet man who doesn't push back, I don't think. Nothing wrong with that most of the time but all of us need to be called to account from time to time.) The young woman said: "Yeah. Been there. One of his unlimited time shares was about how his $5,000 refrigerator broke."
Rich people. Jaysus, as the Irish would say. I drive a Porsche and the woman who dropped the one liner on Rich Guy only found out about it last week. I've known her two years. If I have Ferrari problems I don't have to call them "Ferrari Problems" - I can call them "car problems." The word for this is Humble Brag. "The air conditioning on my private jet wasn't working on the flight to the French Riviera."
I think Rich Guy would be somewhat taken aback at the comment of one of the women he thinks he's dazzling.
In the "Restraint of Tongue and Pen" department I offer this quote from The Grapevine: "I've heard that if I make space between the stimulus and my response, I'm making room for the universe, or God, or peace, or common sense or for anything better to get in between me and the stimulus. And that room gives me a chance to think about how I might be able to bring something good to the situation, rather than think about what I need to get out of it."
Good advice for someone who just did a ton of writing trying to convince you I'm better that Rich Guy. I'm not better than anyone.
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