You Have Defects. Deal With It.

"We cannot whip what we cannot recognize.  Symptoms are not the problem.  They are only evidence of it.  The roots go deeper than surface remedies."  In Toltec Speak.

". . . our decision could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in ourselves that had been blocking us.  Our liquor was but a symptom.  So we had to get down to causes and conditions."   In A.A. Speak

It's unpleasant looking at my defects.  I'd rather deny them or avoid them, bury them deep down inside me where they can eat my guts in clever silence, or - better yet - pretend my defects are really assets, than to look at them.  Profoundly uncomfortable.