Restraint

"It is the emotions that control the behavior of the human, not the human who controls the emotions.  When we lose control we say things that we don't want to say, and do things that we don't want to do.  To refrain is to hold the emotions and to express them in the right moment, not before, not later."

Feel like some Step work?  "Nothing pays off like restraint of tongue and pen."    "The way this restraint paid off was startling."   "For we can neither think nor act to good purpose until the habit of self-restraint has become automatic."   "Our first objective will be the development of self-restraint."

First objective!  Nothing pays off like restraint!