Sometimes I feel sorry for younger people and the endless choices they have when they're trying to figure out how to live their lives. When I was looking for work or for a mate I was often restricted to what was presented and was available in my own little sphere of existence. There wasn't a website where I could peer at hundreds of women on a screen, endless choices, swiping, swiping, swiping and when I looked for work there were ads in the newspaper and maybe a personal connection or two where someone knew someone who was looking for someone to do something. If I wanted to move to another state I had to go to the library and hope they had the newspaper for Peoria, Illinois where I could peruse the Help Wanted ads. And even that was an incredible amount of freedom compared to someone growing up on a farm before the advent of automobiles. Church and community dances were your best bets. You can go one step further and imagine the societies where family members got together and decided on the best fit for their children and that was that. I've heard the divorce rate for arranged marriages is lower than for the endless choice societies. I know some younger single people and I get the sense that they have breakfast with one person, lunch with another, and then on to dinner with someone else. Sounds exhausting. Sounds exhilarating which is the point and the problem, I guess.
Toltecs: "The beautiful thing about mortality is that it puts the relationships we have with others and ourselves into perspective. In this light, any resentment we may be carrying toward another or ourselves is a type of early death. It has often been said that 'holding on to a resentment is like taking a poison pill and waiting for the other person to die.' With awareness, forgive yourself and others for any wrongdoings, real or perceived. In the big picture of life and death, does any resentment you are holding on to really matter?"
So we alcoholics do not have the market cornered on the resentment front.
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