Diss - Functional

Dysfunctional:  Functioning incorrectly or abnormally; especially, designating of a family or social group with strange or abnormal behavior.

I've had conversations over the years with friends in The Program who have had to deal with dysfunctional family members, and I mean dysfunctional with a Capital D.  My family is minor league dysfunctional.  Not crazy in their craziness - more annoying than anything.  One of my friends had a brother who would drop off the radar from time to time, resurfacing in various states of chaos, finally stealing my buddy's identity and thus severing all ties in perpetuity.  Another friend had an alcoholic brother move in with their father, causing so many problems that they had to boot him from the premises.  He hears rumors about his brother's whereabouts but not much else.

The point is that these guys finally decided that nothing was better than the something they were being offered.  They decided that their best means of contact was no contact at all.  It wasn't always comfortable but it was easier than the frustration inherent in dealing with someone who had run off the rails long before.

I'm slotting myself into this category with my dad right now.  Like these guys I've finally gotten to the point where I'm not mad at dad but I don't want to deal with the crap.  I'd rather not know, you know?  I'm not entirely comfortable with this at the moment but I'm getting there.