I Am Responsible

 I don't give much direct advice in A.A. because most of the time I don't have a clear idea of what people need to do to make themselves better and, even if I did, they wouldn't listen, anyway.  The idea that we have to sit and talk about the problems we face, taking the time to do this and being patient that it isn't a quick process, implies a slow and unwieldy process that has this assumption at our core: We are responsible for most of what happens to us.

Boy, talk about one of my core beliefs . . .   A friend quips that the first thing we should do to a newcomer is break both of their index fingers; the implication being that it's time to stop pointing fingers at other people, places, and things.