My prescription for uncovering your character defects:
1. Hang around your family.
2. Go to work.
3. For males - drive on a congested road with millions of other people who aren't perfect drivers like yourself. I'll let the women speak for themselves.
I have a friend in my morning meeting who recently took a trip to Italy with members of her family. The big problem that surfaced, of course, was that they didn't do things the right way which is to say: her way. Of course not. She came home in a bit of a funk and did some fuming while admitting she still had a pretty good time but feeling that she could have done better. Of course she could have. Knowing her pretty well I guessed that her behavior wasn't bad at all. Then, after a pause, her kids started telling her that she should start planning another trip. Confirmation that her behavior wasn't all that bad.
Here's my spiritual progression:
1. Quit murdering people. Instead tell them that you want to murder them.
2. Quit telling them that you want to murder them. Instead murder them in the privacy of your own mind.
3. Quit murdering them in your mind. Quit murdering them at all. This is the really tough one. There really are people out there I find offensive and reprehensible.
What's that we say in A.A.? Actions; then words; then thoughts; and then peace of mind.
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