Monday, September 30, 2024
Heaven or Hell? Your Choice
You Have Defects. Deal With It.
Sunday, September 29, 2024
Profoundly Happy
Profound: Felt or experienced very strongly or in an extreme way; very great or intense
"But today, in well-matured A.A.’s, these distorted drives have been restored to something like their true purpose and direction. We no longer strive to dominate or rule those about us in order to gain self-importance. We no longer seek fame and honor in order to be praised. When by devoted service to family, friends, business, or community we attract widespread affection and are sometimes singled out for posts of greater responsibility and trust, we try to be humbly grateful and exert ourselves the more in a spirit of love and service. True leadership, we find, depends upon able example and not upon vain displays of power or glory.
Still more wonderful is the feeling that we do not have to be specially distinguished among our fellows in order to be useful and profoundly happy. Not many of us can be leaders of prominence, nor do we wish to be. Service, gladly rendered, obligations squarely met, troubles well accepted or solved with God’s help, the knowledge that at home or in the world outside we are partners in a common effort, the well-understood fact that in God’s sight all human beings are important, the proof that love freely given surely brings a full return, the certainty that we are no longer isolated and alone in self-constructed prisons, the surety that we need no longer be square pegs in round holes but can fit and belong in God’s scheme of things—these are the permanent and legitimate satisfactions of right living for which no amount of pomp and circumstance, no heap of material possessions, could possibly be substitutes. True ambition is not what we thought it was. True ambition is the deep desire to live usefully and walk humbly under the grace of God." Step 12, P. 124, The 12 & 12
Sometimes the elegance and beauty and profound insight of our literature overwhelms me. So, in these cases, I can't just change a few words here and there and pretend that the thoughts are mine. I just have to cut and paste. What an ending to this book! Reminding me again that there are many, many Promises in our literature, and this is doozy of a collection.
Freedom From Fear
Wednesday, September 25, 2024
Restraint
Monday, September 23, 2024
It's Not Them - It's You
Saturday, September 21, 2024
New Guy Blues
Thursday, September 19, 2024
Master Manipulator
John Ramey, Esq. RIP
Wednesday, September 18, 2024
The Nosy Neighbor
Tuesday, September 17, 2024
On Outrage!!
Outrage is a funny emotion. On the surface, it seems like a negative, unpleasant emotion. After all, its root is the basic emotion of anger. However, humans are a complicated ape. Our emotion systems evolved largely to help us obtain and maintain strong social standing within small-scale communities, as doing so was evolutionarily adaptive for our ancestors. Expressing outrage about the behavior of others, often in the form of virtue signaling, seems to partly function to elevate the status of the person expressing the outrage. And to the extent that this strategy may be effective, we can understand why it is often the case that expressing outrage often makes people feel good rather than bad.
Understanding the evolutionary roots of outrage may well prove moral outrage often is less about outing someone else for problematic behavior than it is about inflating one's own sense of self by buffering threats to one's own moral identity. Virtue-signaling-based outrage seems to be much more about sending out signals about oneself. It is essentially putting others down in an (often unconscious) effort to raise oneself up.
Screaming is not only a perfectly valid form of release, but a healthy one, too. Screaming creates a chemical reaction that is similar to the one you get when you exercise - you get a dopamine hit and some endorphins flowing.
Monday, September 16, 2024
Jughead Jones Reads The Four Agreements
Saturday, September 14, 2024
Thwack!
Thursday, September 12, 2024
The Frog Blog
Wednesday, September 11, 2024
YOU, Dude
Monday, September 9, 2024
Do I Have a Stupid Face?
Toltecs
Mistakes!
Mistakes
Three Categories:
Catastrophic - when an outcome can clearly be linked to a decision. I.E., driving with your eyes closed and having an accident.
Complex - when an outcome is the result of a combination of factors that on their own wouldn’t usually cause a problem. I.E., having an accident when it’s raining and you have a headache and traffic is heavy and your cell phone rings and you're running late for an appointment . . .
Managed - when a mistake is made that doesn’t have consequences that are dire. I.E., instead of quitting your job and selling all your possessions to write a movie script, taking a series of smaller steps - like joining a writing contest - where failure wouldn’t have terrific consequences.
Friday, September 6, 2024
A Shit-Ass Way To Live
God is Life
Past Dreams
Thursday, September 5, 2024
The Human Touch
Tuesday, September 3, 2024
I See You
Monday, September 2, 2024
Do Your Best
"If you try too hard to do more than your best, you will spend more energy than is needed and in the end your best will not be enough."
There's a fable I've always liked about doing the best you can and learning to be satisfied with that effort. A novice tells a master that he meditates for four hours a day and wonders how long he has to do this to become enlightened. When the master replies "If you do this you should be cool in around ten years" the novice tells the master he's going to meditate for eight hours a day to speed things up. "Now how long will it take me to become enlightened?" The master says: "Ummmm . . . about twenty years." The novice says something along the lines of WTF kind of math is that? Here's the thing, says the master: If you meditate that much you'll start to feel bored and irritated and you'll forget that we're supposed to live life, to enjoy life, to find joy in life, not engage in a grim death march of forced meditation. Do your best and enjoy your life.
I have an ability to make almost anything into a grim death march. I can ruin even the most pleasant things by overdoing them and overdoing them perfectly.
Here's Alcoholics Anonymous' take on the issue of spiritual growth found in the 12 & 12: "It has been well said that 'almost the only scoffers at prayer are those who never tried it enough.' We will be comforted and assured that our own destiny in this realm will be secure for so long as we try, however falteringly, to find and do the will of our own Creator." Not the Creator - our own Creator.